Demonstrating civility means being thoughtful, courteous, polite and showing regard for others. I believe there has been a slow but significant reduction in civility over the past few years. It is almost as if rudeness is becoming the norm.
I often have clients express one of the goals for our work together to be an improvement in their self-confidence.
Humans have psychological needs which when left unmet can lead to extreme distress. Some of the most important are: a sense of safety and control, being connected to others and a feeling of knowing or certainty.
I was raised in a large farm family in Saskatchewan. My mother loved Christmas and always made it a very special family time.
This article is about coming to terms with our limits as we face the circumstances of a V.U.C.A. world. V.U.C.A. is an acronym first developed by the U.S.
As we celebrate Mother's Day it's a good time to consider our femininity. The history of celebrating mothers goes back to the ancient Greeks and Romans who held festivals to honour their mother goddesses.
“Underneath our fears and worries, unaffected by the many layers of our conditioning and actions, is a peaceful core…. Healing is the rediscovery of who we are and who we have always been.” …..
We hear a lot about the importance of good self-care as an aid for mitigating stress and enhancing well-being.
There are a myriad of obstacles that can block our path to feeling truly satisfied with our lives. Occupational choices that no longer fit, untenable relationships, painful work-life contexts, to name a few.
The concept of mentoring has been relevant for thousands of years. A mentor is usually someone older and more experienced than the mentee, willing to share knowledge and experience, provide advice and wisdom based on specific expertise.
Bullying is a form of physical, psychological or verbal abuse. It involves one person or a group of persons picking on another individual or group of individuals.
Every adult moves through several important and predictable stages in their career-life journey, with the ending of one stage and the beginning of the next involving a period of adjustment.
This article is a personal reflection on my career journey that I hope will inspire others to know their truth.
"We are best motivated for work not by being pushed into it or by outside compensation but by inner desire." Matthew Fox, author of The Reinvention of Work.
"Our lives are shaped as profoundly by personality as by gender or race."
Susan Cain author of Quiet
"She felt that old generic guilt, the kind you feel even when you can't think of what in the world you are supposed to have done." Meg Wolitzer
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ― C.G. Jung
"Presence is a state of inner spaciousness." Eckhart Tolle
Ability may get you to the top but it takes character to keep you there." John Worden
What is Character?
"If you're always racing to the next moment, what happens to the one you're in." Anonymous
A career reputation is created over time as a result of attitude and behavior. Be intentional about yours!
Reputation: It's Your Career Brand
"Validation of your truth is the essence of respect." Jenna Ryan
"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." ~Anais Nin
Christmas Blessing, Not Stressing
A Zen master suggested that instead of saying, "Don't just sit there do something,"
"The brain constitutes about 3% of your body weight but it uses 20-25% of your body's energy." Robert Sapolsky, Stanford University
"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place."
George Bernard Shaw
You have no control over another person, but you always have control over how you choose to respond to that person.
"At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent."
"There is no such thing as a perfect balance But what is....is constantly making little tweaks to stay in a healthy place." Crystal Paine
Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect." Oren Arnold, Journalist
"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending." Maria Robertson
Find a career that suits your temperament.
Do what feels natural and comfortable.
The Importance of Temperament
"You can't shake hands with a clenched fist."
Your career is like a chunk of clay that can be remolded and reshaped as you move through life. Consider yours now. Is it soft and pliable? Is it full of air bubbles? Is it Inflexible and hard as stone?
Career satisfaction is enhanced when one is able to hold a vision for what is possible while mindfully staying present to how a job feels right now. This is a matter of being conscious of what is, while delighting in what is still to come.
Consider the ways in which your career, all of your paid and unpaid roles, may have been influenced by your mother or another important mother figure in your life.
Consider the difference between a "job" and "work." A job is what you do to support your physical and financial needs. Work is what provides you with emotional, intellectual and spiritual satisfaction.